From my late teens to the age I am now — 46 — four areas have profoundly shaped my life. They overlap. They intertwine. At the centre of them all sits one common theme:

Obsession — and the struggle to regulate emotion.

This platform exists because of that journey. It is built from lived experience reinforced by structured tools applied in real-world settings.

ADDICTION — THE BEHAVIOURAL OBSESSION

For over 20 years, I was a gambling addict. Addiction cost me stability, peace, and led to homelessness. It became emotional regulation disguised as risk.

Through counselling, mentoring, structured recovery frameworks, and faith, I rebuilt. I have not gambled since 2020. Recovery is daily structure, accountability, and repetition — not luck.

LIMERENCE — THE EMOTIONAL OBSESSION

When gambling stopped, obsession shifted. Limerence became intense romantic fixation built largely in the mind. The emotional highs were powerful; the crashes were devastating.

It was not love — it was emotional regulation through fantasy. Understanding attachment patterns and emotional dependency became essential.

PURE O — THE COGNITIVE OBSESSION

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, particularly Pure O, is an internal struggle of intrusive thoughts. These thoughts can feel frightening and identity-attacking.

An intrusive thought is not an action.

An intrusive thought is not intention.

An intrusive thought does not define your character.

Structured cognitive tools and emotional regulation practices help reduce their power.

BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER — THE EMOTIONAL REGULATION STRUGGLE

Borderline Personality Disorder affects emotional and relational patterns. Emotions can escalate quickly, and reactions can feel immediate.

Emotional regulation tools — particularly those associated with DBT — have been central in my ongoing development.